When Someone Tries Too Hard

There comes a time in every one's life when it is no longer appropriate to wear certain attire. Some, cannot accept the fact that they are aging. Instead of aging gracefully, this group of folks try and fight it. While the rest of us look sexy with permitable limits, the ones who try too hard look trashy and cheap. And you can always tell when someone is trying too hard.

Possibly when you were younger, platinum blond hair looked good on you. Yet, at 45, that does not work. You may be mistaken for a cheap escort. Seriously. As Dolly Patron exclaimed, "I can see a bottle job at twenty paces". Do not try and dye your hair blond at home. It never turns out a natural blond color. I don't want to hear the excuse "It's cheaper for me to do myself!". Well, if your hair color resembles My Little Pony or a canary, then you just got yourself a lot of looks and a lot of laughs. Everyone will know, you are trying too hard. Do yourself a favor, go get it done professionally. There are a ton of elegant women (grown, adult women with houses and careers) with immaculate blond hair.

Do not try and wear something meant for a thirteen year-old. I repeat myself, DO NOT DO IT! I see this all the time on grown women and I just laugh because I am thinking how utterly ridiculous they look. Wake-up call, your kids are most likely super embarrassed to be seen with you (that's why they run out of the mini-van). If it has weird fabric hanging, it looks super complicated, or if there is a ridiculous amount of cleavage, it should not be worn. Ever.

I understand if you miss the "fun clothes" you used to wear. There are many of sophisticated brands that have "fun clothes" for grown women to wear with out looking trashy. To name a few: Target, Liz Claiborne, Anne Taylor, Banana Republic, Marc Jacobs, Zac Posen, Chanel, Tori Burch, etc.

The rule to always remember, you can always modernize your look with accessories.